Positive-thinking-sufferings-nature

Posted by on November 14, 2011 No comments | 11,294 views

“All the world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming.” – Helen Keller. Pain is inevitable. But, suffering is optional. Nailed to the cross, Christ’s pain must have been unbearable. Yet, even then, he had enough compassion, enough love to say, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” Pain did not cause him to suffer. Instead in a state of divine ecstasy, he communed with his Father.

Suffering masquerades sometimes as worry, a wasteful abuse of self. Mullah Nasruddin spending a sleepless night, complained to his wife, “I promised Abdullah I would return his loan tomorrow. But I can’t.” Nasruddin’s wife went up to Abdullah and said, “Nasruddin will not pay you tomorrow.” Then she advised Nasruddin, “Go to sleep. Let him worry now.”

Suffering is self-inflicted punishment resulting often from guilt. The Buddha, on the road to enlightenment, guilty over past indulgences, starved himself to unconsciousness. Reviving, he heard a passing musician tell his student. “See, this ektara, it plays when there is the right tension in the string. Too tight, it breaks, too loose, it sags.” And Buddha understood. Suffering pulled the strings tight, indulgence made them sag. He discovered the madhyama marga, the middle path. He never starved again.

Suffering is a sign of laziness, an easy slide into depression. There are always other choices, if we are bold. Two men were sentenced to die. The first suffered his fate silently. The second said, “Your majesty, give me a year. I’ll make your horse fly.” The king acceded. Later when quizzed about his promise, he answered, “Who knows? A year is a long time. In a year, the king may die, or the horse may die. Why, in a year, the horse may even learn to fly!”

Suffering is an essentially enjoyable, attention-seeking activity. The Master was taking a night train. As he glided into sleep, he heard a weak voice from the berth below, raised in a wail, “Oh! How thirsty I am!” Moved by the old woman’s plight, he got her a glass of water. Having settled her in comfortably, he was finally drifting into blissful slumber, when a lament shattered the peace. “Oh! How thirsty I was!”

5 Ways Positive Psychology Can Improve the Workplace

Posted by on November 14, 2011 No comments | 17,815 views

There are many organizations and small businesses out there that recognize the value of multiple bottom lines beyond simply profit. Building an inspiring work culture and investing in the health and development of their people is an additional priority for long-term business success.

Research supports that certain positive psychological outcomes relate to greater organizational outcomes. Positive emotions and related processes can lead to greater motivation, fulfillment with work, and the ability to cope with stress and uncertainty.

Whether you are experiencing particularly rough times economically and professionally, or if you just seem to be coasting by without much satisfaction or joy with the work you do, here are a few ways to advance your performance and work experience.

1. Strengths, virtues, and self-determination

Research has shown that employees who are fully engaged in the work they do, and who have a sense of intrinsic motivation, are likely to perform better and a have better work outcomes.

Taking an approach of self-determination offers freedom and autonomy for workers to flourish and become absorbed in the work they do best. This involves employees uncovering their signature strengths and having the freedom to use them.

These traits also lead people to experience flow, where they are fully engaged in a productive challenge. This is a state where time seems to fly by, and we feel like we’re “in the zone.”

2. Emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the capacity to identify and regulate emotions in ourselves and others, and has implications for both internal and external customer relationships. Emotional intelligence allows us to recognize our own personality tendencies, and to better understand the personality traits of others so we can most effectively interact with them.

More specifically, EI is the ability to manage counterproductive emotions, such as stress and anger, and ultimately begin to harness more positive feelings such as optimism, hope, and creativity, so we can stay motivated and perform up to our potential.

3. Psychological capital and positive organizational behavior

Study of Positive Organizational Behavior (POB) has examined how to apply human strengths, resources, and psychological capacities toimprove performance in the workplace.

Four basic capacities typically explored related to job satisfaction and performance includes: self-efficacy, hope, optimism, and resiliency.

With higher levels of these states, people are more confident, better able to manage stress and adversity, have a higher level of motivation and drive, and likely to pursue growth and development. They also build upon each other to increase Positive Psychological Capital or the maintenance of these positive capacities.

4. Level of innovation and change

A major factor in a healthy organizational culture is the fit between an organization’s values and the disposition and values of the employees. A specific value is to examine is where on the continuum your organization falls between change and stability. Some organizations are prone to change where others are much more stable and stagnant.

How employees respond to change and innovation is important to consider in order to have a good fit with personal and organizational culture. Having a good fit will help employees be energized, have a positive attitude, and feel safe and secure in their role.

5. The virtuous organization

According to the article, “Virtuous organizations infuse an ethical perspective into their cultures, have multiple bottom lines, promote self-determining, emotionally intelligent, and team-oriented behavior patterns and develop supportive leaders that enable others to succeed, all of which can lead to productive and creative outcomes (Froman, 2010).”

During times of economic stress and uncertainty, an organization can benefit from developing a culture of integrity, trust, and respect.  An environment of negativity, cynicism, and mistrust are not as productive or satisfying as those of positivity, confidence, optimism, hope, and resilience.

Organizations can learn to coach employees to set challenging, measurable, personally valuable goals, as well as realistic pathways and approach strategies to accomplish these goals and overcome obstacles. Through using strengths and achieving growth, Positive Psychological Capital can enhance job-satisfaction and performance.

Positive Attitude Helps White Lake Woman Beat Breast Cancer

Posted by on November 13, 2011 No comments | 289 views

White Lake Resident Adrienne Kiger, 64, battled breast cancer while going through a divorce and came out all the better.

“I was able to keep a very positive attitude through my entire treatment process,” Kiger said. “Yes, I cried. Yes, I had my bad days. When I saw the chunks of hair laying in the tub, I sobbed. When I looked in the mirror at my naked, scarred chest, I cried.”

But Kiger said she knew she would make it through.

“I knew that I was going to be well again,” she said. “The diagnosis, treatment and reconstructive surgery probably took almost two years out of my life, but that’s OK, because I feel I have a lifetime ahead of me.”

Kiger was diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer in September 1995 after a routine mammogram. The radiologist saw something abnormal on the X-ray and recommended she get a biopsy. Following the biopsy, Kiger said, she learned she had cancer and was told she would need either a partial mastectomy or a full mastectomy.

“Everything happened so fast. I didn’t want to waste time,” she said. “In my mind, time was allowing the cancerous tumor to spread, causing more damage. I wanted to get things done. I elected to have a full mastectomy. They took off my entire left breast. I had to wait over a week to find out what stage my cancer was. That was tough.“

After the surgery, Kiger learned that the cancer had spread to four of her lymph nodes, so the doctors, being cautious, removed a total of 26 lymph nodes.

She then began the recommended course of chemotherapy and radiation treatments.

“I had 12 chemo treatments,” Kiger said. “I lost my hair and had to get a wig. I was scared to death because I was dealing with the unexpected. How should I feel? It was scary. But the nurses at the North Oakland Medical Center under Dr. Ahmad Samhouri were wonderful. They were up-front and honest, but they were very caring.”

Kiger followed up the chemo with 36 radiation treatments and six months of tamoxifen, a drug used to treat metastatic breast cancer.

“I wore a wig, and I had a prosthesis for six months,” Kiger said.

One year after her mastectomy, Kiger elected to have reconstructive surgery.

“They used tissue from my stomach to rebuild my breast. The surgery was 12 hours long,” she said.

For Kiger, who works in a nursing home, the recovery was tough.

“I had to work through all of this … I was going through a divorce,” she said. “I took off the time that I had to, but otherwise, I was at work.”

After making a full recovery, Kiger decided to give back to the community that had helped her and supported her throughout her bout with cancer. Kiger joined the American Cancer Society as a reach-out volunteer.

“I’ve been doing it for 13 or

14 years now, and I find it very rewarding,” she said. “If I can make one person feel better about themselves, that’s uplifting.”

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“I let them see someone who has been through it all,” Kiger said. “I talk them through it.”n to her work with the American Cancer Society, Kiger also volunteers at the Breast Clinic at Henry Ford Hospital in Detroit, where she talks to women who are about to have surgery for breast cancer.

If there is one thing she’s learned throughout her battle, she said it’s that people can live with cancer — but early detection is the key in most diagnosis.

“I strongly urge people to get their mammograms as they should,” she said. “If cancer runs in your family, then you need to make sure you let your doctor know so that you get these preventative measures scheduled sooner rather than later.

“Being stricken with any life-threatening disease is a life-changing experience,” Kiger said. “You no longer sweat the small stuff, you be sure to let your family and friend know how much they mean to you, and you stop and smell the roses.”

Feel Better Fast – Positive Affirmations!

Posted by on November 12, 2011 No comments | 144 views

Have you ever been feeling down and then thought a happy thought or were reminded of one? How did this change your attitude? Well, if you are like most of us then you have and you understand the power of positive thinking. A simple, “I love my life!” can change your whole outlook and make for a good day. So, how do you harness the power of positive affirmations and use them to increase your mental well being?

“The most important things in life aren’t things!” – Anthony J. D’Angelo

An affirmation is a declaration that something is true and you believe it to be true. You already have a variety of affirmations or beliefs about yourself, but if your beliefs are creating unwanted results then they aren’t helping you and they need to change! Once you figure out how to do this and create positive affirmations you can use them, the same way you already use your negative affirmations, to create happiness and success.

Negative(un-useful) affirmations:

- I am so dumb!
- Why bother?
- I hate my life!
- She is so mean.

Positive(useful) affirmations:

- I am a genius!
- I am going to finish this!
- I love my life!
- She means well.

Those were just a few examples of what a negative affirmation would be like and what its opposite positive affirmation would be like. It can be just as easy as saying or thinking the opposite! Think about it, how different do you feel reading each one of these statements? “I am such an idiot!” or “I am very intelligent and I can learn from this!” One of those statements results in defeat and the end to the process, the other one results in opportunity and understanding. It is up to you, which way you want to think!

“You are the embodiment of the information you choose to accept and act upon. To change your circumstances you need to change your thinking and subsequent actions.” – Adlin Sinclair

Think Positive:

- Be prepared
- Be aware
- Change your thinking
- Practice!

Yes, in order to properly use positive affirmations to feel better fast you need to be prepared to use them, be aware and present in your thinking, once you recognize a negative affirmation you need to change it, and finally you need to practice this whole process. Being prepared is creating a list of positive affirmations, this can simply be writing out statements that are positive and the opposite of your current thinking or this can be more elaborate and based on your goals. Being aware is remaining in the present moment and making a conscious effort to shift your thinking, once a negative thought or affirmation is recognized then you make the conscious effort to change it to one of your positive affirmations. In order for you to make this a permanent habit of your thinking, you need to practice it! Practice it in the most minor of incidents and practice it in the most major of incidents, by doing this it will begin to happen automatically and with little effort.

There are a variety of ways to use positive affirmations, although for this purpose you were taught how to use them to feel better fast. I recommend writing some positive affirmations out and being prepared, but you can also be prepared to just tell yourself the opposite of what you are thinking. Recognizing your negative thinking and instantly shifting it to positive thinking will change your attitude and perspective, as well as with enough practice change your beliefs. So, the choice is yours! You can keep things the way they are or you can feel better with positive affirmations.

It’s Time To Build A Positive Attitude

Posted by on November 10, 2011 No comments | 169 views

A survey of Harvard University found that when a person gets a job or a promotion, 85% of the time it is because of his attitude and only 15% of the time because of intelligence and knowledge of specific facts and figures. It is surprising that almost 100% of education expenses go to teach facts and figures, which account for only 15% of success in life.

Positive attitude help people to win within family, friends, job, business everywhere. People with negative attitudes often blame the whole world including their parents, teachers, spouse, job, luck, economy, government everything for their failures. To build a positive attitude is not always very easy. If you want to build and maintain a positive attitude, you need to practice the following eight steps.

1. Change focus, look for the positive

Start looking for what is right in a person or situation instead of looking for what is wrong. Some people always look for the negative. Whatever you focus, that will grow. Focus to become an optimist.

2. Make a habit of doing it now

Some people keep waiting for all the lights to turn green before they leave home. That will never happen. They fail even before they start.

What time is it and where are we? The answer is now and we are here. Make the best of now and utilize the present to the fullest. A fullest present sows the seed of a bright future.

3. Develop an attitude of gratitude

Count your blessings, not your troubles. Take time to smell the roses. Many times we are so focused on complaining about things we do not have that we lose sight of the things we have. There is a lot to be thankful for. Many of our blessings are hidden treasure, so count them.

4. Get into a continuous education program

We need more value based education rather than academic education. A person who is morally educated will be a lot better equipped to move up in life or succeed than a morally bankrupt person, with excellent academic qualifications.

5. Build a positive self esteem

Self esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. When we feel well within, our performance goes up and our relationships improve both at home & at work and the world look better. There is a direct correlation between our feelings and behavior.

6. Stay away from negative influence

Whenever people succeed in life, petty people starts critiquing at them and try to pull them down. When you refuse to fight petty people, you win. Don’t let negative people drag you down. A person’s character is not only judged by the company they keep but also by the company they avoid.

7. Learn to like the things that need to be done

St. Francis of Assisi said, “Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” Some things requires to be done whether we like it or not and seems impossible to do. But if you learn to like the task, the impossible becomes possible.

8. Start your day with something positive

Read or listen to something positive in the morning at first. After a good night’s sleep we are relaxed and our subconscious mind is receptive. It puts up the right frame of mind to make a day to a positive day.

Building a positive attitude is extremely important to be successful in life. Follow the above steps and you can maintain a positive attitude.

Why You Need to Be a Positive Thinker

Posted by on November 9, 2011 No comments | 320 views

We create thousands of thoughts every day. Some are positive and some are negative and you can easily tell the difference between the two because of how each makes you feel. Our thoughts really do influence our feelings, so each negative thought you have will build up and build up and start to emanate itself as a negative feeling, whether that is sadness, fear, jealousy or anger.

If you tell yourself every day that you are stupid or fat or ugly, these negative images you have of yourself burrow deep into your subconscious until they become beliefs and labels that you no longer question – you simply accept them. In time, due to those negative thoughts, you will automatically see yourself as stupid, fat or ugly – your subconscious will hold this belief and bring it forward each time something goes wrong. Note that these beliefs are not based on fact. How you see yourself is formed solely by what thoughts you choose to think. So, surely it is better to learn to think positive thoughts and see yourself in a positive light? If you have negative thinking patterns, you need to change your way of thinking and the more positive your thoughts become, the happier your life will be.

We cannot control what other people think of us but we have full control over our own thoughts. There is nothing and no one stopping you from becoming a positive thinker but yourself.

First, you need to change how you talk to yourself. The thoughts we have act as our inner dialogue. We have to change those negative thoughts into positive ones. This requires being conscious of your thoughts and monitoring the presence of negative self-talk. This takes some practice, but it is well worth the effort. Look on it as protecting yourself, caring for yourself. You wouldn’t readily accept anyone else calling you stupid or a failure, so why on earth accept it from yourself? That would be crazy! For every negative thought you have, immediately stop it in its tracks and replace it with positivity. So, never call yourself stupid – call yourself clever, intelligent, talented. It will feel strange at first to compliment yourself, but remember what we said about the power of our beliefs and how they affect the subconscious mind. Before long you will automatically see yourself as clever and talented and your confidence will soar.

If this isn’t enough of an incentive to become a positive thinker, consider this: positive thinking makes you happier and healthier. Negativity can contribute to stress and ill health whereas positive thoughts do the opposite. So, positive thinking can help you live a healthier, longer life!

Positive thinking also enables us to be more creative. When we are full of negativity, our brains cannot work as effectively as they should because we are preoccupied with draining emotions, such as fear and resentment. Being positive lightens the load, it also gives you the energy to put your goals into action and follow your dreams. Positivity gives you a feeling of self control – that’s because you are in control of your thoughts and therefore largely in control of your feelings.

Being a positive thinker is something we should all want to be and it is something we can all become. All it takes is practice and consistency. Remember that what you tell yourself is what you believe about yourself.

Negative thinking patterns can become a habit, but luckily all bad habits can be broken.

The Seven Simple Solutions to a Positive Attitude at Work

Posted by on November 8, 2011 No comments | 684 views

Your work environment is ultimately effected by you and your thoughts. No matter what others say about the place by way of suggestions, behaviors or expectations, you are the one who gets to officially decide what you want to think of it. The final decision that resides in your mind, is what creates your attitude about the place- be it positive or negative. Keeping cautious, yet realistic, no matter what you think of your workplace, you should still be allowed to have good and bad days as part of the process. But, at the end of the day, putting out a positive attitude at work guarantees you will get the same in return. This doesn’t mean being positive is going to be easier – in fact, in the corporate world it likely won’t be. But, the philosophy of staying positive has been around for years and proven true to get positive results when practiced.

So, how do we even start to create a positive attitude at work, especially when we are surrounded by voices of negativity? Here are seven tips to keep you on track:

1. Don’t give negative ideas more mileage than they deserve. If you or a colleague is faced with a problem, rather than rant and rave about it, try coming up with creative ways of fixing it. Problems don’t have to be negative, instead, make them an opportunity to show people how you are flexible in any situation and can handle anything that is thrown at you. Besides, the time wasted getting upset, could be better used somewhere else.

2. Another important aspect of creating a positive attitude at work, assure yourself that every problem has a solution. Research has shown that people who expect a problem to have a solution, are far more likely to succeed in the workplace and in other aspect of their lives.

3. Don’t let setbacks get blown out of proportion. Instead, try and see them for a reason. A setback is a step back in progress and a temporary reversal, which allows you to analyze the situation and correct it. Think of it as a learning experience that allows you to make changes and move forward with a new and improved plan.

4. Listen to the good voices. When you’re hearing negativity around you in the workplace, start using positive self-talk. Take a few minutes to remind yourself of the positive aspects in your environment. Try keeping a list in your desk for the moments you find tough to get through.

5. When problems arise, deal with them immediately. There’s no point of sitting and stewing over a minor or major blunder. Remember that a problem should always be addressed directly and corrected as soon as possible. Keep in mind that some people see problems as indications of their own inadequacies. Be assured that everyone has inadequacies and problems arise even in the best of plans. Your best bet is to face the problem, deal with it, learn from it and move on.

6. See the humor around you. Keeping a positive attitude at work isn’t easy, but with a little laughter and smiles, it can be made easier. Try to see the humorous aspects of the things going on around you. A little time out for laughter will surely lighten your load and that of others.

7. Learn to step back and take a moment of relaxation. We both know that stiff muscles, hunched shoulders, and a clenched jaw don’t create success. In fact, the reverse is more likely to happen. Next time you’re feeling this way, take a moment to breathe deeply, bringing each breath to the bottom of your lungs, and then slowly release your muscles. Practicing this throughout the day, will allow for an improved attitude and health, without distracting you from your work.

Next time you’re looking for that positive attitude at work, just look to these seven simple solutions to get you back on track and functioning smoother as you plow away at your work.

A Positive Mindset – How to Develop One and Remove Negativity

Posted by on November 7, 2011 No comments | 306 views

When I checked my emails the other day, I saw a thread of messages from some colleagues, about a work related issue. As I read them I could feel myself getting tensed by the amount of negativity in the content of the messages.

I have lost count of the number of meetings I have attended where opinions and negative nonconstructive remarks got exchanged routinely. I assume most of you can relate to this in some form or another…

People suffering from mental health conditions like anxiety disorder and clinical depression commonly present with negative cognitive patterns as part of their illness. These usually fade away along with recovery from an illness episode.

We can more easily avoid negativity coming from people we only meet occasionally. But what if that ‘circle of negativity‘ was at home or had embedded at your work place and you have had to face it every day? How easily can you avoid it then?

Let us begin by looking at 3 key reasons why we need to stop feeding negativity.

1. Negativity can waste valuable time and resources

Picture this for a moment – you go to work with an intention of completing your tasks for the day. You find your colleagues discussing about a change introduced recently by management. You somehow get drawn into the debate. If not mindful you could get caught up in an endless discussion and waste your valuable time resource.

Similarly, gossiping, arguing your case for the sake of a “hard to please” ego not only wastes time but also reduces productivity.

2. A negative mindset affects your health, negatively!

A negative mindset has an overall negative health outcome. It makes one more prone to the harmful effects of stress, releasing more stress hormones and reducing endorphins (the so-called “feel-good” hormones). Scientific evidence shows that a negative attitude can adversely affect our immune system, making us prone to infections and other physical and psychological ailments.

Individuals with a habitually negative disposition could have a higher risk of memory and mental health problems, including depression compared to people with a positive disposition and outlook on life.

3. Focusing on the negative only contributes to its power

Negativity has a growing ground. Just like one rotten apple in the basket can spoil the rest – a dominating, firmly held negative belief can influence your thoughts and state in a way that do not serve you. You soon become quite negative and cynical.

You fail to communicate effectively and trivial things seem to matter leading to pointless conflicts with others. You soon become part of the problem rather than part of the solution.

Why do we feed negativity?

Adopting a negative stance does not take much effort (although energy can get expended), whereas to think and behave in a positive way requires some persistence and commitment.

A fear of ‘loss’ can drive negativity. Unfulfilment of our needs could also feed negativity, for instance a lack of loving or meaningful relationships, ill-health, ongoing stress, tiredness, exhaustion and so on.

We may get into a “negative state” from time to time, due to external stresses or internal conflict. Some people with past negative experiences may consciously or “sub-consciously” expect more of the same, thereby making ‘negativity’ a conditioned but unhealthy response.

Let me share a few ways of addressing negativity in your life.

1. Cultivate an open and positive mindset

People who project negativity on a consistent basis typically have low self-esteem. They feel badly about themselves, and their negativity could reflect those feelings.

Adopting an open mindset should enable you to listen non-judgmentally, practice genuine empathy, and to appreciate the viewpoint of others. You do not have to share their views or try to solve their problems for them – only encourage them to look for solutions themselves. Keep a distance from the negative emotions of others if you want to help them in a meaningful way.

Research has shown that our expectations of people can influence their behaviour and vice-versa. When we label someone as “negative”, we expect them to complain, be pessimistic and focus on problems most of the time. This expectation or prediction often comes true.

Would it help to say that no such thing as a “negative person” exists, only a person with negative tendencies?

2. Infuse energy and enthusiasm

When you look after yourself well, with passion for your life, the vibrant energy will sooner or later rub off on those around you. Positive energy vibes can have a contagious effect!

3. Use language mindfully

Try repeating the following out loud (with emotion for impact)

“I feel crap”

“This food is disgusting!”

“This traffic jam is doing my head in”

“This is absolutely appalling. How dare she complain to the boss about me?”

Now try these ones instead-

“I don’t feel very good”

“This food doesn’t taste nice”

“This traffic jam is quite annoying”

“This does not feel right. I wonder what made her complain to the boss about me.”

How we frame our sentences and the words we use on a regular basis have a big role to play in either feeding or defusing negativity. Words like always, never, everything, everybody, nothing, nobody, etc.can easily distort reality. So choose your words deliberately and mindfully.

4. Stop blaming others (and yourself)

You need to accept that you cannot control external events and that no one can make you feel a certain way – only you can! No matter how bad the situation, no amount of blaming, cynicism or back-lashing will change it. Seek to learn and experience something positive from it, no matter what.

5. Positively energise your thoughts!

Negative thoughts and accompanying emotions can wreak havoc when allowed to run their free course. Rather than resisting them, first accept their presence. Ask yourself “do they serve me and my loved ones?” Your body will send out vibes. If these make you feel uneasy, remind yourself of the consequences of holding on to these. Make a conscious decision to discard and get rid of them for good. Discarding them will create an empty space in your mind. Fill it with positive and happy thoughts, and charge these up with physical and emotional energy. This will make you feel positively energised!

6. Have a break

Mental exhaustion can challenge you from staying focused and from maintaining a positive attitude. Noises from the outside world compounded by your own value judgements, inner dialogues and “things to do” lists can distract you.

Give your body and mind the break it deserves even if only for 5 minutes every hour or so. This will not only help you re-orient yourself to the tasks that needs completion but enable you to put your best efforts.

7. Choose healthy habits and a healthy lifestyle

Lead a healthy lifestyle and pay particular attention to exercising your body and mind. Among other things practice gratefulness on a daily basis, read inspirational stories, listen to music, connect with your loved ones, give time to your children, participate in sporting activities and reach out to help others in need.

8. Resourcefulness

Resourcefulness is a state of mind from where creative energy flows. It taps into your inner resource and aligns you with your core values. When you try hard to resist negativity, you only manifest more tension and end up in a unresourceful state. Accept its presence and do not blame yourself.

Try out ways to get into a resourceful state. Make a list of things, people or activities that evoke a good feeling in you – make a note of these in your personal journal. Schedule these positive triggers in your daily routine, indulge in them and reap the benefits.

9. Expect ‘negativity’ to have a short life span

Remember, if you remain passive negativity will take you for a joyless ride. It is not enough to think positive. You also need to shake off the stubborn, negative particles that you might have collected and flush them out of your mind. Create an expectation that they will move on and they will!

10. Have you addressed your needs?

We all have needs – our physical, emotional and spiritual needs. Turn your attention to them and see which ones need addressing. Address them and you will experience a freshness in life!

Finally get inspired by successful and positive people and study how they deal with negativity. Remember “Success leaves clues”!

Positive Thinking To Overcome Social Anxiety And Stress

Posted by on November 6, 2011 No comments | 361 views

The day-to-day pressures and stresses of life can be quite overwhelming. Many minor details tend to add up, and lead to feelings of sadness, social anxiety, and even depression. It is only a natural progression from this point that thoughts start to develop into a negative pattern. After all, when things are not going well, it is extremely difficult to keep your entire attitude from becoming negative. Taking a bit of time each day to change this progression and evoke positive thoughts can truly transform your whole life.

That being said, it is important to understand that simply thinking good thoughts will not provide you with the results you need to help you overcome social anxiety. You need to believe these thoughts, and you need to feel the emotion behind these thoughts to fully gain the power needed for social anxiety treatment. In order to be successful, you will need to practice positive thinking methods. This can be done in a few different ways.

Erase Negative Thoughts And Accept What Is Real

You must first start to treat your social anxiety by understanding that there are things in this world that you simply cannot change. What is meant to happen will happen, regardless of whether you want it to or not, or what you try to do to control it. Take what comes in your direction and deal with the cards you are dealt. Look for any type of positive, even if it is minuscule, in difficult situations. There is always a brighter side, you just have to look for it. When you are struggling, or going through even the most trying time, reassure yourself that you are, and you are going to continue to be, all right. Take hold of your situation and tell yourself that when you get through this tough time you will come out stronger on the other side. You will learn from this experience, and you will use this lesson as social anxiety support in the future. In addition to this practice, erase all negative thoughts that pop into your mind. Take a minute, take a deep breath, and let the negativity go.

Replace Negativity With Positive Thoughts

The next step in thinking positively as a form of social anxiety treatment is to replace the negativity with encouragement. Rather than “I am never going to be able to do this!” Think, “I can do this. It may take me a while, but I can definitely do this!” Negative thoughts do more than hold you back temporarily, they poison your mind and cripple you in every thing you attempt to do.

Once you get into the habit of replacing negative thoughts with positive affirmations, you will also be able to visualize yourself carrying out the task. When you are able to see yourself succeeding, you will gain even more confidence to take on the situation. This allows you to further release the negative energy you have been storing, and you will be able to feel as though you have truly solved your problem. Use this practice to enjoy what you have done, and do not focus on what you do not have, or what did not work out the way you wanted.

Take What You Learn And Use It To Grow

You cannot fully overcome social anxiety and utilize the practices of positive thinking if you do not take what you have learned and use that information to continue to grow. Individual growth is what is going to create lifelong changes that will truly allow you to succeed. Take each day as it comes, and treat it like a new page in the book of your life. In time you will notice these pages allow you to create whole new chapters that are much more positive in every aspect.

In addition to the benefits of using the power of positive thought to deal with anxiety and stress in your daily life, good emotional healthy may have a profound impact on your physical health as well. There have been numerous studies that have shown individuals who are better able to control negativity and think in a more upbeat manner can actually reverse some of the adverse effects that high blood pressure, and high heart rate have on the body. A positive thought process has also been used with a great deal of success in women undergoing high risk pregnancies, and has been shown to lower the risk of coronary artery disease. In addition to these benefits, a positive attitude has also been directly linked to faster recovery time in patients.

The process of dealing with social anxiety and using the power of positive thought is one that will take time to master. You need to strive each day to replace negativity with thoughts that are helpful and encouraging. With time you will find this process becomes easier, and you will transform yourself into a better, healthier, more secure, and more successful person.

How To Be More Positive And Live A Happier Life

Posted by on November 5, 2011 No comments | 150 views

If you believe you have been too negative about the events that happen in your life and people around you that make you feel less happy, you can find some tips on how to be more positive. Yes, we all have negative thoughts and attitudes in life, but we must not allow to take control and make us unhappy.

Most of the time, these negative thoughts prevent us from achieving our goals and desires. In general, unwanted things happening in our lives can make us feel bad, angry, and can make us hate, but even if not control, we can choose how you react to it.

Sometimes it is difficult for us to learn to be more positive if we are bombarded with negative energies of people around us and many of the hardships we face, but we can not really do not want to affect them. Here are some techniques that allow us to see the positive side of everything, rather than enlarge the negative.

- Learn to visualize your goals and desires. If you are one who thinks, “that you can not do” or “I can not do this” even before starting the task, you can change this negative attitude. Display your desires and your goals, you can help to motivate yourself to do your best and find a way to work on your goals.

- Put the focus on the things you want and not vice versa. When we make plans, and when we do things, often defined by what they do not want. If you often say “I do not want this to happen ..” or “I do not like doing this and that ..” You are actually creating an image in your mind on things you do not like, not what you want.

- I practice daily remained positive. Learn to be more positive in life can be facilitated by reprogramming your mind through positive images. This will help remove the negative thoughts you have on you, that was in my subconscious for years and years.

- Watch your words. Sometimes you can be yourself be discouraged by your words, without even noticing. Stop to say “I’m tired” or “it’s impossible” or negative words, you say. Unmindfully You can say, but you need to send negative energy to your body and your mind every time you said. Get into the habit of saying “I can do it” or “there must be a way.”

- Being with positive people. One of the things that can help you a lot about being more positive is to be with people who have a positive attitude in life. In fact, being positive is contagious and mingle with positive people, the easier you can learn to be more positive.

- Find things you can be grateful. Regardless of the adverse effects that may come your way, you can always find something you can be grateful. Cultivate the attitude of seeking the good and positive in everything and make it easier for you to be more positive.